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I need friends like you to get me through the holidays!

The title if this post is a sentence from a message I got on Facebook this past weekend. One of my high school friends, Nancy, shot this to me after I wished her happy birthday via a wall post.

At best, during high school, Nancy and I were casual friends. She was a cheerleader and hung with her group, and I tried to be a jock and hung with mine. One of my biggest victories in high school came at her expense. We ran against each other for senior class vice president and I won. I was riding a wave of popularity from my role in the junior class play, otherwise Nancy would have probably prevailed. But at the end of the senior year, we graduated and would not be in communication for almost 36 years.

Then came all my "new friends" on Facebook and as many of us were working to get a reunion together this past summer, Scott, one of my classmates from West Virginia, informed me that Nancy's husband had passed away. I immediately put a message on the reunion page on FB to pray for Nancy. She then accepted my friend request and would have been at the reunion, but was in Ohio earlier that month for a wedding and had to be back in Alaska for her job.

Another one of my friends, Rex, was at the reunion. Rex was an equipment manager on the football team and tried to encourage me at times. His older brother, Jeff was, and still is, a classic good guy who took a liking to my younger brother while in school. But back to Rex. He had spent quite a bit of his time in the past few years taking care of his wife as she had been ill for quite some time. He was able to attend our reunion this past July and we even sang Happy Birthday to him. His wife ended her battle a few weeks ago with Rex, their son, and Rex's parents at her side.

Another friend I would like to mention is actually a distant relative. We originally met because we share the same name, Cliff Feightner. I first met Cliff and his wife Lynn in 1990. He was a manager at Goodyear, and I was a salesman at an appliance store. I was told about him and he about me. Cliff then searched me out. Several years later, we started contacting each other by email, which resulted in him coming to one of my family reunions. Lynn brought a chocolate cake and it was delicious. We have kept in contact over the past few years, now mainly by FB. Cliff will also be spending this Christmas without his life mate, as Lynn passed away this year. I'm sure his sons, Chip and Eric, will be there for him this year, but there will be some emptiness.

I'm sure there are many other stories of people who will spend their first holiday season without their partners. I just want to encourage you to reach out and touch those who need a friend this season. It will make a difference.

Comments

Cliff said…
God Bless YOU Cliff. Thank you so much for remembering my dear wife Lynn. This holiday season is indeed empty; my youngest son Erik is my only solace. I really don't know if I can get through this but with family like you, I will try.
Cliff Feightner
@cliffordf2
FlaAuthor.wordpress.com
December 01, 2010 9:13 AM
74WIXYgrad said…
Just remember this Cliff, to have friends you must be a friend. And you were very much a friend and encouragement to me during the 9+ months I was out of a job this year.That meant a lot to me.
December 01, 2010 9:29 AM
Michelle said…
Lovely post, Cliff. I wrote something similar on my blog this week too.

Great friends think alike? ;-)

Love and hugs to you and Kathy
December 02, 2010 6:05 AM
burpsmom said…
I am a blessed person. God gave me the best husband you could ever want. Thank you cliff and I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH. GOD has taken care of us and he always will. as long as we have each other we will be fine
December 06, 2010 4:16 PM
Michelle said…
Wonderful post as always. I'm hoping to be blogging again soon but with no internet at home its difficult and we are still settling in a new state. We had to move to Pennsylvania. When I do come back it will be under a new blog name but I will let you know. Look for a christmas card in the mail. I hope all is well and keep in touch. God Bless!
December 07, 2010 3:46 PM
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