Skip to main content

Why, why, why?

One problem this age of the internet has increased is the problem of loneliness. The world has come closer together, but is has also drifted further apart. We can communicate with others from the privacy of our own homes without leaving the privacy of our own homes. And sometimes we are our own prisoners. An d we also can't reach out and give the physical touch some people so sorely need.

The high school classmates I have renewed friendship with in the past year were shocked to hear that one of our fellow alumni had gone out and taken his life a week ago last Wednesday. Chances are many of us wouldn't haven't have even known about this had it not been for Facebook. Regardless, it still had us wondering, why? Arrangements were sent via email and I'm sure many had attended. I had obligations with my job at the time, so regretfully, I could not attend.

This morning on my way to work, I stopped for my coffee and snacks for work. Beth had told me that she had talked to one of our school friends who happened to be close to the deceased classmate. Jeff told her that his friend had been suffering from alcoholism. This was a way he had to handle his problems. He was showing some of the other classic symptoms, such as reporting to work late. And he also crawled into his own shell.

I know that this has always been a problem with those who are dealing with addictions, but I wonder if this internet age has hindered recovery in many cases. I know there are some recovery bloggers who read my blog. Maybe they, and others can shed some light.

Comments

Mike Golch said…
I think the internet is a way of helping the recovery process.some of the blogs I follow are recovery blogs and they help me stay sober.That's my story and i'm sticking to it.
Sandee (Powell) Robertson said…
You bring up some very good points Cliff. I doubt many of us would have heard about Don's passing without FB. I also feel that people aren't reaching out anymore unless it is by e-mail or FB or some other internet social page. I too am quilty of this. There are people that I call on a regular basis, even tho I can reach them by e-mail or FB. Talking on the phone is more personal and hearing that persons voice makes me feel closer.
In this age of instant everything I feel sad for the generation that is growing up not knowing the intimate feelings of friendship. I remember one of my classmates being killed in a car accident my Junior year. We all got the news by phone and it was passed on by running to the neighbors house.
Sometimes I think the further we advance, the further behind we become.
Syd said…
I don't think the Internet had anything to do with it. If your classmate was not in recovery then perhaps he simply gave up hope. It doesn't do much good to wonder why. But I am sorry that he did not find a solution other than suicide.
Ann Marie said…
OMG...Cliff you are still here!!! This is great..It is Ann Marie from the A Day In The Zone blog and the Nonsense blog..hope all is well with you..I off to see what you have been up to..it has been a couple of years!!
Cliff said…
Ann Marie: Check your a day in the zone email. I just sent you a message.

Popular posts from this blog

Post 800: Time to chat

Hi Guys, It's hard to believe that this is post number 800 for this blog. I started this blog out of my desire to communicate. Since radio and television is becoming more and more automated and less and less personal, I'm glad I made the decision to go in this direction as it has given me many blessings. When I first decided to write my musings, a friend from the radio and television boards who goes by the name of newsnomore, told me not to be discouraged if I didn't get any readers. The fact that I did in the early going made me surprised and grateful that anyone was enjoying what I wrote. I've had people tell me that maybe it wasn't meant for me to ever be in radio, that maybe my calling was blogging. Nowadays I think blogging makes for better two way conversation than terrestrial radio, especially the way I do it, non confrontational. The closest I come from any confrontation is the innocent digs that Pat and I shoot at each other. On an average day I get betwee...

From a "Battleground State"

I am going to make this one short and sweet. I live in Ohio, in this election season, one of the so called "Battleground states," a state crucial for any candidate presidential hopes. Of course we have had many visits from presidential and vice presidential candidates. Other blogs have dissected both campaigns so I will not. The only questions I have is will the promises made by either of these candidates exclusive to these states be fulfilled, or will they prove only to be hot air?

Why?

What I'm posting now is with the blessing of Chelle. Chelle is the cousin of Suzanne's husband, Richard. I had gotten the impression from both of them that they were about as close as sisters. Suzanne had been a friend of mine since I had discovered one of her blogs in July, 2006. We would make reference to each other on our blogs and would have dialogue via email quite a bit. It was no surprise to me that she was friends to many other bloggers as well. I felt it was quite an honor to be held in as high esteem as I was. We even talked to each other on the phone on occasion. I felt as we had known each other for a long time. I also knew that Suzanne was having some personal problems, much of which had to do with a very troubled marriage. I would let her bounce things off me, and I would send her some encouragement. While she was going through some of her marital problems, she made herself available to give me a lift when I needed it. My son was having some problems of his own a...